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Finding the People who Matter

Everyone has a story. A reason why they are who they are, why they do what they do.

For most of us, that story is paved by people. Life is about the people we meet and the experiences we create with them.

It’s obviously very important to surround ourselves with the right people, those who we want to create great things with, those who can help us to achieve success and happiness.

But who are those people? And how do you find them?

Of course, the simple, short answer is: “it depends”.

I felt inspired this morning by this article from Viveka Von Rosen, and I decided to share what I think are good ways to identify and find people who can make a difference in our life.

Finding people who matter for your career

That one is obvious: use a professional social networking site. There are several free services such as Branchout or Viadeo, but LinkedIn is the biggest in terms of size, and probably the most advanced in terms of features.

Connect with people based on similar interests, skills or based on a company you admire and/or would like to work for someday.

Finding people who matter for important moments in your life

Friends are there when you want to share meaningful events in your life, when you need emotional support and relief, when you long for that invaluable sense of bonding.

Facebook is obviously the best place to reconnect with friends and familly. It’s free, it’s fun, it’s addictive, and everybody uses it.

So, reconnect with friends on Facebook. Pay attention to your privacy settings, but don’t be afraid to share, and don’t dismiss it too quickly as just a vain and shallow communication tool. Most Facebook users get more from it than they put in, study says.

Finding people who matter for activities and leisure

Long before Facebook was a sanctuary and a global institution, a “friend” was someone we use to share real life activities & hobbies with. It has changed a little since then …

Social discovery services like Meetup or most recently Highlight are great to meet new people and make new friends based on your interests. If your current friends don’t share your excitement about how fun it is to sing the latest Adele hit backwards while playing chess in a night club, you may find one or two others partners in crime with a social discovery service.

Twitter, and most noticeably Google+ (IMHO) are also excellent ways to meet people based on similar tastes. However the connection is mainly virtual. It means more potential, and a lot more interesting people to find, but it may mean less genuine relationships and less meaningful interactions.

Making the best out of the people you find

Let’s get to the beef right away: Finding and connecting with the right people is just a beginning.

You should give before you need to ask.

One of the biggest mistake people do when it comes to networking, is to try to get value from others before even figuring out how they can provide value themselves.

Don’t be this guy …

Connecting the dots …

Managing your social capital and the connections you create is not an easy feat. An average user has 150+ friends on Facebook, 60+ connections on LinkedIn and 120+ followers on Twitter. That’s a lot of people.

Preaching for my choir, Symbyoz can help bring some clarity and allow people to manage their social capital smartly, and easily.

First, it helps you to identify people who interact the most with you on the other social networking services. This is a great way to determine who is already listening and contributing to you, and will be more likely to keep doing so, and to focus on them. A smaller network of trust is much more manageable than a huge social network.

Second, it encourages people to keep in touch, to do more things together, and to support and help each other. This creates a place where providing value via meaningful social interactions is bound to happen more often.

Social networking will not be working for you if you don’t think long term.

Let’s go ahead and create things together.

Twitter and Facebook degrade humanity?

Does Twitter and Facebook degrade humanity? Of course not. Chris Matyszyk however, says that Skype thinks so.

Indeed, Skype have new ads up to convince social networking users that their service is a better, truly human way to communicate.

In new ads, Skype wants you to believe that its service is the only truly human way to communicate — and that Facebook and Twitter are draining our souls

Hmmm … I don’t think that Facebook or Twitter are evil entities threatening our humanity, but I don’t think that that’s what Skype is trying to say either.

Of course, I’m biased. The message about limitations of current social networks in creating meaningful interactions and genuinely strengthening our bonds hits home and touches the values for which we stand for at Symbyoz.

So, I was surprised though to read Chris demolish the notion that there might be a more meaningful way to communicate than Facebook or Twitter.

“We exist to offer our depth in sly, shallow ways. Something Facebook and Twitter help us do perfectly.”

That’s a very cynical and simplistic way to view humanity. Of course it’s part of it, but it doesn’t define our existence. And if it does, it shouldn’t: it would indeed mean that we have lost something to be proud of.

Having the courage to stand for something, instead of easily surrendering to being average or mediocre: that’s how I want to see humanity, and that how I hope it’ll continue to be.

Via Scoop.it - Stay on top of your social networking

Happiness the secret of success?

Shawn Achor is the author of the Happiness Advantage. He spent 12 years researching at Harvard, and is now CEO of Good Think Inc.

Here’s Shawn in action at TED.

Positive psychology is a concept a lot of people are getting all worked up about. It comes with its passionate nay-sayers and feverish advocates.

I’m in the latter camp. Although I’m always trying to strike a balance between blind optimism and positive thinking.

In this latest post, Shawn drops a bombshell:

In a study I performed on 1,600 Harvard students in 2007, I found that there was a 0.7 correlation between perceived social support and happiness. This is higher than the connection between smoking and cancer. So if in the modern world we give up our social networks to work away from friends and follow celebrities on Twitter, we are trading off with our happiness and health.

Why a bombshell you ask? Well, because social networking has recently become a lot more about getting customers, acquiring fans, showing off skills or broadcasting news than about genuine social support and connection.

Social networking sites are judged not by the nature or quality of the interactions they encourage, but by how popular they are. This is true not only for newcomers such as Symbyoz, but also for major players such a Google+.

The social support, the deep, meaningful connection with friends and family is constantly ignored, diminished or dismissed as most social media pundits, bloggers, and businesses seem only interested by popularity and quantity. And that’s not because they don’t “get it”, it’s merely a pragmatic choice, it’s how they increase their audience and their immediate profit.

So while Google+ may thrive and be very succesful in a forseable future, it will unfortunaltely keep getting a bad rap for being a “ghost town” because the people who write about it are expecting it to be the next Facebook overnight.

Ironically, something that needs to be understood about the success of Facebook is precisely that they did not seek the popularity of the masses when they started.

They started as a way to connect students, then friends and family. As a much more compelling and meaningful agent for social bonding than any other service at the time.

They might not always look like it now. They have become so huge that we only see the large audience behind them. But social was, and probably still is, in their DNA.

Want to improve your Happiness level? try these very simple steps from Shawn:

I challenge readers to do one brief positive exercise every day for 21 days [NDLR: Edited].

• Write down 3 new things you are grateful for each day;

• Write for 2 minutes a day describing one positive experience you had over the past 24 hours;

• Exercise for 10 minutes a day;

• Meditate for 2 minutes, focusing on your breath going in and out;

• Write one quick email first thing in the morning thanking or praising someone in your social support network (family member, friend, old teacher).

New services such as Symbyoz can help to follow these steps, and offer a simple and quick way to stay in touch with friends and family, which will strengthen our social layer and capitalize on that promise of happiness induced by a strong social capital.

Via Scoop.it - Stay on top of your social networking

The Future Of Social Networking With Twitter

I’ve heard a lot about Twitter being dead and being the next best thing at the same time.

The truth is that Twitter is still being misunderstood, and for very good reasons: it has changed a lot, and will keep changing.

I had an great exchange with Brandon Krieger about the topic, and I strongly recommend anyone interested in improving his Twitter skills to read what Brandon has to say. It’s really refreshing.

However, as I said to Brandon, I’m not sure about the fact that simply showing the way, as he does, will stop people from having very short term sights, therefore completely missing the point, and therefore effectively and ultimately killing Twitter.

In retrospect, the very shallow nature of Twitter (140 character) is what attracted in the first place the same people who now complain about it being useless because it’s only 140 characters. It was a quick way to get the word out there and have people react to it. And it was very convenient because it didn’t require people to spend too much time thinking.

Now that Twitter is that weird bloated beast filled up with a lot of the same people doing the same kind of things, the bar to get noticed is a lot higher. All of a sudden, there’s a need to be more sophisticated in using the tool, and truly approach it as a social communication medium, and not a simple broadcasting platform.

But most people don’t take the time to reply or socialize on Twitter. Not because they’re bad people, and not necessarily because they don’t know better, but simply because they don’t have time or they don’t care enough. They just want to “promote the damn thing” and get back to playing Angry Birds. I’m caricaturing, but it’s not too far from the truth.

Now they want to use tactics, they want expressiveness, to show their difference, to display their value in unexpected ways, use multimedia or what not, something fast and quick …

So all of a sudden, it’s becoming complicated. Not because the tool is complicated, but because the expected outcome of using Twitter has become complicated. And this is where it’s indeed dangerous ground for Twitter.

When people said they love Twitter because it’s “easy”, it has never been about Twitter functionality, or it’s interface, or something else. It has always been about the experience, about how easy it was to reach their goal: being heard without too much effort. That was the value.

That value has been lost for quite some time now already. The reason why people are still hanging around is that it has been replaced with another one: the size of the audience.

That new value is calling for a different and a more social approach to using Twitter, and it might be the only thing that will save them. They might again have to change and turn into something closer to Google+ or Facebook to add more expressiveness and encourage this more social behavior.

They’ve already started.

A Smarter Way to Keep in Touch ….

Friendships are dying.

More people realize that talking to a wall on Facebook, and on other social networking services, only creates the illusion of true friendship. They are frustrated about spending too much time online, but they feel stuck because all their friends are there.

I created Symbyoz to help people save time and to bring them peace of mind by focusing on connections who are important to them and making sure they stay on top of their friendships.

Symbyoz is the first smart social life assistant. It’s a smarter way to keep in touch with your social networks. We make it easy for you to select and focus on important friends on Facebook, Twitter or LinkedIn, so you can follow them, keep in touch more often and do more things together. We remind you when it’s been a while and you need to catch up. We also suggests you what you can do with your friends, online or in real life, based on your interests and location.

Give it a try, it’s free and really easy. Then let us know what you think ….