A friend recently shared a Ted Talk from Derek Sivers, who’s suggesting that we should keep our goals secret even if our first instinct is to tell someone.
Derek presents research dating as far back as the 1920s to show why people who talk about their goals are less likely to achieve them. The main theory behind it is this: Talking about their dream is so exciting that people are thrown into a big illusion that it’s already achieved.
But many other research such as this one are actually showing that the exact opposite is true.
Research recently conducted by Matthews shows that people who wrote down their goals, shared this information with a friend, and sent weekly updates to that friend were on average 33% more successful in accomplishing their stated goals than those who merely formulated goals.
First, I think there’s something about our first instincts that should never be put down too quickly based on relative observations.
Second, while I can buy the thesis that receiving positive social gratification when exposing a goal or an idea to peers could lead to a feeling of “it’s half done”, I don’t think it necessarily throw people out of the path of accomplishment.
Case in point, the multiple weight loss support groups that truly help people to overcome their procrastination and achieve things they wouldn’t without peer pressure and support.

Besides, it’s simply not true that peers and friends are automatically and complacently nodding in agreement to whatever our goals are. At least not if they are true friends who care enough to give genuine (and most times actually over-protective) feedback and support.
What is your take? should we share our goals or should we not?

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